Big Girls Don’t Cry…

Frankie Vallie sang it first…  So why don’t big girls cry?

Well they do, they cry a lot, I can attest to that, BUT not in the gym, not during a workout.

Training is hard, it takes effort, dedication, guts, a mental game, and strength.

Effort: It’s what you put in to it.  Little effort in, little results out.  Lots of effort in, lots of results out.

Dedication: You’re not going to reach your goals overnight.  You’re not going to reach goals going at it half-assed. You have to put in the work.

Guts: There’s only glory once the goals are reached.  In the meantime, you’ve got to work hard.  You’ve got to see past the temporary pain you’re in and into the future.  You’ve got to visualize reaching your goals.  You’ve got to get past the discomfort, if it was easy, we’d all do it.

Mental Game: More than half of those failed reps are in your head.  You psych yourself out from doing them.  That next pull up is there.  The higher box jump, it’s there.  Ten more pounds on your deadlift, it’s there.  Again, visualize it.

Strength: Every ounce of strength, psychical…emotional… Dig deep, find what drives you, stick to it, even when it’s hard.  Be strong.  Find it in your heart, believe it in your mind.

After all, big girls don’t cry…at least not in the gym.

Skinny Fat

Whoa! Two words that aren’t usually put together. And when they are people are worried about the feedback they’ll get from it.

Here’s the truth…just because you’re skinny does not mean you’re healthy and fit.

I’m writing a little bit about this for a friend of mine, she’s funny, she’s sarcastic, she’s like my little sister, she’s attractive, she’s thin, but in her own words (not mine, although I’m familiar with the term) she’s skinny fat.

For the first time since I’ve known her ( and that’s been over 10 years), she’s taken huge steps to better her health and fitness.

She quit smoking.

She started eating better.

She started running.

She wants to start weight training.


She’s getting a lot of ridicule from friends and family, asking her while she’s bothering? Which brings me to the point of this post.

Just because you’re skinny doesn’t mean you’re fit and healthy.

Being fit is more the knowing that you can accept any physical (or mental) challenge proposed to you. You can tackle it without any observation.

When you’re fit you know you can take the stairs, sounds simple, but most people can’t.

When you’re fit you feel healthy, you feel alive, you feel strong, and you have energy.

I’ve always tried to fall back onto this one phrase I heard a long time ago, ‘Nothing tastes as good as lean and fit feels.’

Although the two comparisions are almost unequal, comparing food to a 5k or a max effort deadlift. I’m not saying they are the same, but when you know you’ve worked really hard to accomplish something, you tend to walk away from those flavorful temptations.

You know you worked really hard, so why ‘ruin’ it with not eating properly. Fitness and nutrition support each other 100%.

Ironic? Perhaps.

Nonetheless, if you know someone who is trying to better themselves, make themselves stronger, even if you don’t think they need to, be supportive.

Proper exercise and nutrition go a long way.

Get out of the rut, give it a try, it might just be eye-opening.