I never once said, ‘Be Skinny!’

It’s not often that I find myself both lost for words and also overwhelmed with thoughts.

This is one of those times. As I’m reading the news this morning, while sipping my coffee ( I know coffee is so bad for me) I stumble across a headline,

“Dreaming Big: NJ Lady’s 1,000 pound fantasy”

Then I come to discover that at already well over 500 pounds Donna Simpson’s goal is to be the fattest woman in the world.

Yet, she’s not sure how realistic that goal is because she does have a 3 year old and household to run.

All the while, I feel pain in my heart as this woman talks and tries to convince either the readers, the reporters, or herself that she’s happy in her life.

To be honest, I’d be thrilled if people wanted to send me gifts all the time, give me their credit card number to buy things…but not at the cost of killing myself.

I forgot she also believes that all the diseases that are associated with being overweight, aren’t really true, at least that’s what I understood as her opinion in this interview. Yet, she already has diabetes and fibromyalgia, imagine the luck she must have if these diseases aren’t associated with being over weight.

Even now, I’m lost for words, but have thoughts flying through my head at the speed of race cars.

I never once told anyone they had to be skinny, I don’t believe in that as much as I don’t believe in being obese. Despite having struggled her entire life dealing with a weight challenge, I feel this is an attempt at giving up, it’s not accepting herself as she is, as she so admits.

You have a 3 year old. Is any of this worth not being able to see her grow up?

You can watch her interview here.

I’d love to hear your thoughts.

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  1. kelly alice. says:

    wow. i’m at a loss for words myself. possibly mostly because i feel such intense sadness for the little girl. her mother is an adult and can make her own decisions and face the consequences, but i don’t know why she’d want to impact her daughter’s childhood and health in these ways.

  2. kelly alice. says:

    ok, one more comment. :)

    on the other hand, situations like this frustrate me because while i struggle to afford gym memberships/exercise classes/equipment/healthy whole foods which will hopefully lead to less healthcare costs in the long run, there are folks out there who will require so much from the system by not taking care of themselves. this is not so much me commenting on the healthcare issue (i don’t really mean to get into that whole debate), but more about personal responsibility… to yourself and to the community around you.

  3. Pamela, have you ever heard of feederism, or being a feeder/feedee? I don’t want to post the details of that on your blog, but to me this situation is a clear case of it. Look it up. This is really the first time I’ve seen it come out in mainstream media, but no one is calling it that yet.

  4. Erica, thanks for the information. The info you sent over on feederism is interesting and clearly deep routed somewhere.

    Kelly, this whole idea opens up a can of worms that most people probably do not want to talk about or admit. I’m sure the media will follow this woman, and we’ll see what comes of it.

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